5. Traditionally, she cannot light the pyre of her parents. Why not? Gone are the days when women were too weak hearted to light a pyre or needed to be stopped from jumping into the pyre themselves. In the modern day era, where women have reached the moon and are heading the biggest of corporates, cant they light a pyre in the absence of any male child in the family? The present custom is archaic and needs to be changed.
6. A lifetime committment is required to look after the girl even after the marriage. A lifetime committment is indeed required with a Girl due to the present social conditions. For example - a pregnant girl is taken to her home in the final months to provide her care and comfort. But the reason for this custom is that she may not be looked after well in her in-laws house. Similarly, the girl's parents pay for the hospitalisation expenses and delivery of the child. Doesn't the child belong to the husband also? Then why doesn't the boy's side pay? Similar are the cases during many festivals and family functions!!
7. She has to be protected and looked after wherever she goes unlike a boy. She has to be protected in the present day world where even 2 year old babies are not spared from rape. That is the subject of my next blog post.
In olden times when families and the number of children were large, it was an extremely remote possibility for a couple to have only girls. Sometimes they had a boy after 4 or 5 girls (in extreme cases) This resulted in every family having a mix of both boys and girls. This permitted easy implementation of most of the customs as families were balanced. For example if a girl in a family was married off and dropped her father's name, there was another girl (as daughter -in-law) entering their house after dropping her own father's name. However with the families becoming nuclear and smaller (with only 2 or 3 children), the balance is getting skewed against girls and with this all the attendant problems are also on the rise.
Couple this with the 'objectification' of women in the movies,T.v and the internet - we have a recipe for disaster in the name of female foeticide.
But, How do we counter this demon? Read on my suggestions in my next post - "Gang rape".